Have you ever felt the weight of the world on your shoulders? It seems one thing after another piles on you until you can no longer function, or you feel like you can no longer stand upright. As cancer survivors, it can often feel that way. We get so overwhelmed with our own diagnosis, and then other things get dropped on us, and life becomes harder, and sometimes, gloomier.
I often hear people say, “All you need is a positive attitude, and you can accomplish anything.” While I agree that a positive attitude is very helpful, it is HARD to have one when things seem so gloomy, at the moment.
How do we overcome our sadness and develop that positive attitude?
The key is to do positive, non-passive, activities. Notice, the keywords, positive and non-passive?
By that I mean, do something positive that takes concentration and focus. It’s nearly impossible to focus your energy on something negative when all your energy is needed to focus on the positive activity. For example:
• If you love to paint, then paint. It’s hard to focus on the negative with a paint brush in your hand.
• If you love photography, go on a walk and take your camera. It’s hard to focus on the negative when you are taking photos of nature, or photos of something you care about.
• If you want to get a college degree, then sign up for a class. It’s hard to focus on the negative when you are writing a paper on a subject you care about.
• If you love to dance, get your shoes out, and go dancing. It’s hard to focus on the negative when you are dancing “Cheek to Cheek” with someone you care about.
• If you love to spend time with your children or grandchildren, take them out for ice cream. It’s hard to focus on the negative when you are eating ice cream with someone you care about.
Do that, and you will understand the power of a positive attitude! But you have to get there first. And this path of positive activities, is what I found most helpful in my journey.
I wish you well on yours!!